My Biggest Regret

My biggest regret:
 
This post is to inspire other men and woman to support those men and woman to deny the decision of ANY FORM of contraception…
 
8 years ago I got a vasectomy due to some peer pressure from close friends and you can say it is what society teaches if you hang out with folks that don’t move you where truth lives.
 
I knew in my heart at the time that it wasn’t right but for secular reasons I proceeded with the procedure. I made up things in my mind about I only have 3 seats in the back of my car so I couldn’t possibly have a family of 6+… And I was too cool for a van…etc. Especially in California, where the focus is on the wrong things like money, titles, success, etc. You really want to know what truly makes your soul happy? Read on…
 
I grew up with 10 aunts and uncles from my dad’s side and I truly remember the happy Sunday gatherings at Grandma and Grandpa’s Ranch house. So being around big families was a beautiful thing for me.
 
4 years ago I was challenged by a Non-Denominational Christian of why I’m a Catholic. He attacked me hard and I didn’t know how to defend myself. Honestly, I didn’t know the fullness of my faith. I was on a hunt for seeking truth and not just checking off a box on Sundays. I joined RCIA, listened to Immaculate Heart Radio, Lived my Cursillo (De Colores!), became a Knight of Columbus and my heart was hungry for more. I learned that missing Mass on Sundays is a ‘Mortal Sin’… Additionally, practicing ANY FORM of contraception is a ‘Mortal Sin’.
 
For those that don’t know what a Mortal Sin is: “A mortal sin, in Catholic theology, is a gravely sinful act, which leads to damnation if a person does not repent of the sin before death. A sin is considered to be “mortal” when its quality is such that it leads to a separation of that person from God’s saving grace.” Even though I confessed this deepest regret, I made a promise to God that I will reverse it since I made that decision when I thought I was in control and playing Him – God..
 
About a year and a half ago, a new Parish opened up in town that practices “The Traditional Mass.” Which means that anything after the 1960s (Vatican 2) isn’t practice. The music, the people, the Eucharist is all practiced as it should, in reverence. Therefore, about 5 months ago we transferred completely to Holy Martyrs Catholic Church after making a decision as a Father that this will be the Parish that my boys get a solid foundation of their Catholic Faith from. As a former expert lukewarm Catholic – There’s a major difference. For those parents that “let their children choose thie faith life” I’m praying for you. Your children are a gift from God and not raising them under the best foundation is just wrong.
 
As I sat in The Holy Mass one day at Holy Martyrs, I saw several large families. The Holy Spirit literally tugged at my heart and said to me, “it is time”. Imagine an emotional feeling of love and compassion smack you upside the head. Tears of love came soon after…
 
I reached out to several Catholic brothers about reversing my vasectomy but very few knew anyone that’s gone through it..
 
Until I spoke to my friend Wes, who led me to a doctor in California who is Catholic. The doctor stated that even if he wanted to charge me $500, the clinic fees alone are $5000. Therefore, I reached out to Wes again asking if he knew someone else a bit more affordable, and he said yes. There is a gentleman by the name of Greg Alexander who actually went through the same situation. He lives in Texas and he will be able to help. So Greg listened to my story and we spoke for about an hour. He pointed me to the Catholic Doctor that did the reversal for him. Greg has a ministry with his wife called The Alexander House that covers this topic and more about marriage life. Greg, my brother – I love you sir, keep fighting the good fight.
 
I booked the appointment on July 1st, 2019 in Texas and just had my surgery 19 days ago from writing this post. What helped me through the procedure was doing a Rosary and I was completely relaxed. I would like to give a big shoutout to Dr. Roeder Loddie F Jr MD from Microsurgical Vasectomy Reversal, 189 E. Austin Street, Ste. 101, New Braunfels, Tx 78130 – 830-629-0180 – His heart is in the right place. They prayed with me before the surgery and I knew I was in the right place.
 
I am very open about this private topic because I believe that more men and woman have to hear it from someone who was chasing the wrong “things” in life. I see big families as a completeness of God’s divine LOVE if he wills it. I’m not sure where we got off on hating big families but my only guess can be the attack on the woman’s body in the 1960s (Margret Sanger, Planned Parent Hood, The rise of Liberal Feminism, etc.) and the idea to destroy Masculinity in Men. We can never be equal when it comes to God’s divine creation because each woman and man have a special trait that cannot be duplicated. I know for a fact my wife has more patience than I do when it comes to being the nurturer of the family. I cannot be that person but I am definitely the Man of the family and put my foot down to lift my boys up (and hopefully future children) to become the best they can be under God.
 
Through this journey, I have been called to be Pro-Life. It’s difficult to be Pro-Life if you’re not open to life… Make sense?
 
Even if God doesn’t will us new life, I have committed myself to him to be put back together the way he created me. Bucketlist checked Lord.
 
Since the procedure, my relationship with my wife has become much more stronger and loving. I’ve been less “Pissed Off.” Working together in peace. Financially, God has opened up new doors for us. As it turns out, doing the right thing does work out. We encourage all of you to follow the path that is right under God and not follow society’s pressure.
 
May this story inspire you and change your heart as it did mine. God Love You. In the name of the Father, The Son, and The Holy Spirit… Amen.
 
Feel free to reach out to me in private. I’m open ears.
 
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My Heart is Complete.
 
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Maui Vacation 2017 Doing It Right on a Budget

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So here’s my Maui story. Can you believe I, Cesar Ramirez, finally turned the big 4 0. Yeah, forty years old and I can’t even tell you that I feel any different, but I can tell you that I have yet many goals to accomplish. It all started in early summer of June 2017. I was planning a 40th birthday party in a local winery that I formally DJ at called The Temecula Coach House for my family and friends. I thought it’d be nice to get family and friends over to celebrate a pretty huge year. It may even be called over the hump for some. Then I realized that I may not spend the quality of time I wish to with my 3 sons and wife…

So during a snapchat session, I was watching a couple in June 2017 that were posting sunset videos of Maui, Hawaii. And I was like, wow, that would be awesome. I asked the snapchatter, hey when is a good time to start planning a vacation like this? He said 5 to 6 months ahead of time. And at that moment I realized, that’s it!!! December 8th is my 40th and 6 months from now I will be prepared to pay this trip off :-). I shopped around different sites and came across package deals from Costco, Travel sites and so on and I found that it would be good to break down my reasoning for not picking an all-in-one package.

#1 – Hotel – AirBNB – Why? Because I have a family of 5 and the 2 bedroom 1 bath apartment we got is amazingly big compare to hotel space. It has a full size fridge and we stored food we cooked with for the week. Saving big money on not eating out. – 7 Days costs us just around $1100 for stay and about $400 in groceries.
#2 – Car to get around – Since I have a lot of points with Avis, I decided to take advantage of this and I got to save about $350 renting a van for a family of 5. You may not need such a big space.
#3 – Flights – I went through AAA since I have a membership and the flights cost us just below $450 each. Total = $2250

Costco Price= $5500   | Me shopping around price= $3700.
#4 – Paid Events to do with the kids and wifey – broken down below (I avoided Time share activities since I value my time.) There we paid a small amount more to dictate our vacation our way.

We left Saturday morning at 6am from San Diego and had a 1 hour layover in Los Angeles (LAX). We arrived in Maui 5 hours later. Remember Hawaii Time goes back 2 hours. So set your clock back if you’re coming from California 2 hours or more if you’re coming from elsewhere.

Sunday Day: We are devout practicing Catholics so we attended early morning Mass at Christ The King Catholic Church.

 

Christ The King Church Maui, HI

Christ The King Church Maui, HI

 

Christ The King Church Maui, HI

Christ The King Church Maui, HI

Christ The King Church Maui, HI Ramirez Family

Christ The King Church Maui, HI Ramirez Family

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

The first event we did after our car rental and checking into our hotel was the Maui Aquarium. Since you’re on an Island, I recommend educating yourself on the sea life around you. They have a 15% discount if you buy your tickets online. We ended up buying and booking there on the spot. Remember, it’s not what you make but what you keep. We really enjoyed this show and I recommend getting the audio commentary so that you know the history of what is what. A great spot to take pictures next to the yachts and boats.

My sister Veronica assisted with some of the must do places. I will cover these in a few… Thanks sis!

So I have a friend who I’ve known since 6th grade. She was someone who I actually had a crush in for all of my middle school years. That’s besides the point but she knows Maui, Hawaii and I decided to ping her on Facebook because she’s a great friend. Chantelle is awesome and recommended some great spots… accept this one. She didn’t recommend the Road to Hana. We actually had 2 people tell us they didn’t but we did it with fashion. There’s an app called The Gypsy Guide of the Road to Hana. I highly recommend spending the $5 and getting it from the app store. You learn the history and the travels to the Road to Hana. Here are some of our pictures from this amazing trip… And yes, planning ahead by reading this post is key to winning a bad ass trip to Maui….

 

Don’t these pictures look like a fake backdrop? Seriously though!

Ok so enough with this awesomeness. I absolutely unequivocally believe you deserve the best. And YOU do.

Xochilt, myself, Lil Cesar, Adam, and Luke believe it also!

When you’re spending time in Paradise. Oh my goodness, time just suddenly stops and calls for you. Why would you have it any different?

 

 

 

We visited Our Lady of Guadalupe on her Feast Day Dec 12th. It’s amazing that Maui’s Catholic Church honors her appearance in Mexico in the 1500s. Respect!

You must try the Gelato on Front Steet! We also Enjoyed the Pizza!

 

 

More to come stay tune…

ES 002: Ray Higdon 2017 Episode 2 Invest Learn Teach Podcast

Ray Higdon 2017

This is Episode 2 of the Embedded Strategies Podcast. The gentleman I’m about to bring out is someone who took the saying of  “When the student is ready, the teacher will appear”
into fruition for me.

That’s right Mr. Ray Higdon is a leader that came out and served from the back of all of his people on his team in a Network Marketing company he and I were a part of in 2010. He saw that I was putting people into his organization through my Craigslist marketing and he wanted me to come out and teach his team. It’s because of this connection that I was able to create a product that helped hundreds of people change their marketing strategies to attract local folks in their business from Craigslist.

Today I’m bringing out Ray to have him share the story of how he became a success and to understand that you can make yourself available if you attract humble leaders into your business. He is the husband of the beautiful Jessica Higdon who I had in my first Podcast.

Disclaimer: This is my affiliate link for Ray’s First 90s Day’s in Network Marketing. These purchases assist you in business and assist me in funding these podcasts and bringing out these great leaders.

Buy here: http://cesarramirez.com/RayHigdonFirst90Days

 

The Talk – The Birds and The Bees

So it wasn’t long before I got reminders from my 9 year old son Adam that I had to give “the Talk” to my 12 year old son, Cesar. Therefore, after several nags from Adam, I finally just pulled the trigger and sat down with my oldest son ‘Little Cesar’ to give him the talk about the “birds and the bees.” I will attribute the ignition of this conversation by one of my favorite childhood shows “The Wonder Years”. One night we were watching an episode where the high school coach drew out human body parts that I was able to explain later to my son on a white board.

One thing to note is that the idea of a parent from my semi-conservative upbringing is that we are to use our best judgement when dating a girl that we thought would be best for our future family. I dropped my experience of several girlfriends with my son on why I believe they didn’t work. I also told him the reason why I married Xochitl, his mom and why our marriage has lasted so long (13+ years), sometimes you have to deal with many things with marriage, you have to try to understand your partner, last week I hired the local domestic cleaners because I know Xochitl was getting to a point where she was not able to handle that many things at the same time.

I firmly believe for this marriage to have worked so long it had to be explained in great detail to my son. It’s a Jesus Christ centered marriage with the fullness of The Catholic Faith. We have instilled the same values of our Catholic faith to our 3 sons. It wasn’t always that way though. I was a cradle Catholic and living a very secular life. Maybe too extreme to the point where I almost lost my marriage.

As an engineer, I always find ways to fix things. Therefore, I knew what was missing in my life wasn’t more TV show watching, or more chasing a new business opportunity, or starting over with a new relationship. It came down to one thing and one thing only… We needed to strengthen our understanding of what it means to be a Catholic and a Catholic family. That is where I found peace. That is where I found to be the most humble.

For those that have a preconceived notion of what it means to be a Catholic because of the other 40,000+ denominations that took off from the Catholic religion… Simply put, it’s the Fullness of the Christian faith that Jesus started with Peter in year 33 (Matthew 16:18). It was like that for 1500 years until “Man” screwed it up.

I share with my son that I remember dating a few girls in my young adult years that felt trapped because they “wanted to be free to do whatever they wanted to do without guilt.” Therefore, they either made fun of people at church or they simply made fun of me for wanting to take them to Sunday mass.

For those that understand that it’s a “Mortal Sin” to miss mass on Sunday, don’t miss mass. We go because like oxygen, the soul needs more of Jesus to breathe. Catholic means “Universal” Christians. Meaning everyone, even you. I remember one of my ex-girlfriends throwing it in my face stating “You think you’re perfect because you and your family go to church on Sundays…” As much as that hurt, I simply didn’t know how to respond to that at the time — But I will now. I simply go to mass on Sundays because I know that I am far from perfect. I need more of Christ in my life because I live in a secular world surrounded by folks that are lost and need prayer too.

I know what you were expecting wasn’t my conversation about faith in my son but just like a secular person would try to be their children’s best friend, I was just being a Father. I believe the role of a Father and a Mother in a family household stands strong as each has their own roles to complete for the family, In my case I was the one who made sure to have the atlas ceramics range of tools for my house. It’s almost as natural as not having each other compete for a win of a job. Mom doesn’t cut half the grass and dad doesn’t cut the other half. Everyone naturally should know their role through the family. There’s a sense of peace and understanding when that is put in place.

I spoke to Cesar regarding his body changing. His natural desire to like girls and have desires for dating them. Additionally, I told him it’s a lot easier when you meet a girl who is from a Catholic family and you both can grow together in the faith “after you finish your educational goals.”

The reason I married Xochitl was because I saw a loving desire for family in her as I had. I wanted children and I knew someday I will be sitting with my son having this talk about the importance of family, the importance of woman to come from a good family, and if it’s God’s will to have children and pay it forward.

I use to think it was the woman’s role to take care of these things and the man goes out and makes the cheddar. After studying many books like Men’s Spirituality by Philip Chavez, I know that it’s important for a father to step up to their children and build them on the rock.

Love them. Raise them with good morals and values.  Show them how to respect and treat their elders with respect. Be less about selfishness and be more about serving and loving others.

Share this message with everyone you care about because the common sense thing to do these days is to give up. I like to think I’m unique, I’m uncommon, I’m different. In reality it’s the way it should be. Isn’t it?
May the Love, Respect, and the Light of Jesus Christ be with you. Amen.

Cesar Ramirez

 

 

MLM Recruiting Secrets for Success

Here are a few MLM recruiting secrets GUARANTEED to take your network marketing business to the next level?

How do I know?

Because what you are about to discover is a handful of proven “MLM recruiting secrets” we have made use of to individually sponsor 30 new network marketing distributors in 30 days and … listen … they all called us!

Seriously.

Improving your MLM recruiting efforts is a simple matter when you wrap your mind around the idea of “promotion versus prospecting” and we are going to take a close, challenging look at those distinctions right here, today.

MLM Recruiting Secrets

When you break it down, constructing a lucrative network marketing business is fairly straightforward.

  • You connect with people and uncover a need or wish.
  • You present or establish your products or opportunity.
  • You follow up to gather a decision.

Take action and implement those 3 step on a steady and regular basis over a prolonged time (think 2-5 years) and you are able to not aid however set up a wildly effective business that is able to and will definitely continue to pay huge dividends for a remarkably, very long time. The rate you ‘ll need to pay upfront is certainly worth the payoff down the road.

Yet, as you know, the first test typically comes pretty quickly … Exactly what Do You Do When You Run Out of Warm Contacts?

MLM Recruiting Secrets for Leads

Lead prosperity results in prosperity.

In further words, the fastest … best means to put your MLM recruiting energies on the fast track is to locate a method to get your product and opportunity in front of brand-new people on a steady basis.

You need leads. Plain and straightforward.

Over the years Lisa and I utilized an amount of on-line MLM recruiting services that promised a turnkey option to assist produce leads, follow up and prompt people to require more details.

But, frankly, none of them worked well and the MLM recruiting systems they supposedly had to offer truly did not amount to much more than common lead capture pages that left a great deal to be desired.

18 months ago things changed in a very big way.

Now it’s your turn …

MLM Recruiting Secrets – MLSP

18 months ago we ran across a program called MLSP or My Lead System Pro and despite hearing from many top producers that this was really one of the best-kept MLM recruiting secrets of all time … seriously … I wasn’t holding my breath.

Been there. Done that.

Still, we enrolled and followed the instructions to get the system set up.

Then we discovered in the instruction collection (there are hundreds of hrs of free of cost training readily available ranging from just how to use Facebook Fan Pages, Twitter, categorized advertisements, mlm recruiting systems, phone broadcasting, and more … great deals more!) that practically every top producer DOES NOT PROSPECT– they market– and that is the distinction that makes all the distinction.

MLM Recruiting Secrets – Stop Prospecting

Prospecting pulls.

Prospecting is you chasing people down and asking them if they may have a pastime in finding out more about your product, service or business opportunity.

Promoting is finding out exactly how to get hot prospects to trigger the partnership … and speak to you to find out even more.

Calling attention to is studying just how to use automated MLM recruiting systems to generate leads on need and get paid even if most of these prospects do not ever join your group.

Get Paid Also When People Do Not Join Your Team

Learning the art and science of marketing and promotion (versus cold calling and prospecting) is where you will locate all the best-kept MLM recruiting secrets. So do yourself a huge favor and study more now.

Since it’s time. You should have it.

 

Here to serve YOU,

 

Cesar Ramirez

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